I've had something on my mind lately and I figured I better document it.
I've spent hours reading and reading and reading parenting books. For some reason, I have this idea, if I read more books about parenting, I will BE a better parent. I suppose this is a valid conclusion; but lately, I'm seeing different.
Lest I appear ignorant, let me first state that many parenting books are wonderful and give great ideas/insight. Stated. Done. I had an experience last night which taught me differently.
Treyson, as all children do, went through a phase recently where sleeping in his crib wasn't going well. Something about his "jail" was not appealing. (Wood slats in your face? Who wouldn't love that!?) Every book I read told me NOT to get him out, NOT to let him sleep with me etc etc etc. I tried religiously to follow "their" (aka. overeducated doctors/psychologists etc) rules. Poor Treyson was not having it.
Then, the other night, while Trevor was again hauling cattle across the nation, Treyson started in on his nightly SCREAMING. I was so exhausted and worn down, I caved. The doctors and parenting experts around the world booed.
I took Treyson in my bed, made some popcorn and we watched Mary Poppins together in MY bed. His little swollen face (from crying...not being beat) broke into the biggest smile and he broke out in dance moves to "Supercalifragilisticexpealidocious". An hour later, he said "Ni Night" and pointed to his room. He went to bed in his crib, without a hitch, with a smile on both our faces.....
I learned that perhaps, not all experts know as much as we'd HOPE they do. My child is different than all others. He will be different than his sisters. Different things works for different kids AND maybe, just maybe, we all need a night out of cribs, in bed with mom and popcorn and OJ and Mary (as in poppins....not my girlfriend).
Some of you have asked/emailed/called re. what's going on with the twinners. ALL IS WELL. I just had some bad contractions a couple nights ago. My doctor wants me on "temporary" bed rest which is just a morbid way of saying, "Pawn your kid off on grandma and lay around watching Oprah and drinking water because you have been doing FAR too much." Praying the contractions stop. My cervix stays rock hard and these twins do not make an appearance till 36 weeks.