I feel as though my anxiety regarding Treyson is not as psychotic as a year ago; nevertheless, I find myself stressing again of some things which are simply out of my control. I use this blog to vent.
1. He is thin. We have always struggled with filling his little tummy because he is much more interested in the cows, dog, truck, ANYTHING than his food. I just had him weighed and though he is on the charts still, he is so light! Everytime someone says something about being "SO light" or "skinny", I cringe. It's like a competition to see who has the fattest baby. I am PROUD I breastfed Treyson till 11.5 months and know he has the "tall, thin genes" from both Trevor and me and our families. And I can not force feed the shrimp. Mashed potatoes are more fun flung at the wall anyway.
2. He is STILL not walking and 14.5 months. It makes me sick to my stomach now. Mostly because I have seen him stand on his own, and take steps. He just won't do it on his own. It's like he has NO desire to do so. AND, lately we have seen his left foot turn way out when he takes steps. It might just be him "figuring it out" but I wonder if it is something more serious. Forrest Gump comes to mind. "RUN FOREST RUN". Trevor has been doing what he deems "corrective therapy" and it actually has helped. We think it might be related to his now retired walker toy which he had to walk oddly with to avoid hitting the wheels. I DONT KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! His pediatrician says ALL babies walk at different times and won't even think about it till Treyson is 18 months old. Then, we can reevaluate if he is still walking. I have talked to tons of moms whose babies didn't walk till 16, 18, even 20 months AND last time I checked, I didn't know any 30 year olds who still crawl. Did I mention that his 8.5 month old cousin, Maddie, is WALKING? no pressure or anything.
I think I just FIND things to worry about. I have too much time on my hands apparently. Anyone else a worrier? It's so lame. I think, if I weren't mormon, I would probably smoke a lot of something to relax. (That is a joke. 100% joke. )
Here is the 21 lb., advanced crawler, CUDDLY, hair pulling, praying, screaming, talking, phone calling, cow lover, who is still really really handsome and truly perfect.
17 educated comments:
I guess the worries start at 4 weeks (or earlier) and never ever stop. Thinking of you and I'm sure glad Treyons prays! ;)
completely misspelled Treyson. Total typo...sorry!
a.) I understand the tall skinny thing all too well! Claira has been that way all her life! If it's any comfort to you, she is now nearly 4 years old (which means she has indeed survived past the age of 2..hehe) and just as healthy and active as can be, despite the fact she's OFF the charts in height and barely on them in weight. I really wouldn't sweat it too much. I ABSOLUTELY understand hating comments about how skinny your child is. I would internalize those and take it personally, like I wasn't doing a good job. But at some point, i just accepted the fact that these are her genes. She is smart and active and absolutely healthy! Just judge his behavior.. if he's acting fine and NOT lathargic.. he's doing good, I promise!
b. Walking. Obviously every kid does this on their own "schedule". Have you tried having him play with kids around his age that are walking? Claira would stand up on her own as well but had little interest in actually walking on her own. Until, we took her to play with a boy that was her age but walking. They started fighting over this toy and the boy took it and ran away, she couldn't keep up with him by crawling. The NEXT day, she was 100% walking on her own. Like I said, maybe that's not typical.. but maybe worth a try??
I totally, completely understand your worries. This takes me back to a blog post I wrote a couple months ago because Macie wasnʻt eating or crawling. She still doesnʻt eat very much and she still doesnʻt crawl. When you said that the fact that Treyson isnʻt crawling makes you sick to your stomach now I honestly just stopped and read it three times because I said those EXACT words to Patrick this evening (about Macie not crawling.) It kills me to see babies her age starting to walk before she even crawls. Iʻve had countless people tell me that it is totally fine and not to worry, and yet I still worry. All day. Every day. So, I donʻt have any amazing advice to tell you, but just know that you are not alone in your worries. In 6 months when Macie still isnʻt walking (I pray she at least crawls by then!) I will come to you for advice. :) Oh, and as far as having skinny babies, I say itʻs just better for us cause we donʻt have to heft around huge kids all the time!
Especially after seeing the videos tonight you have nothing to worry about. YAY!! You must have written this post prior. He looks like a pro. It is obvious he has been "walking" or at least knew how long before tonight. He just wasn't ready. And now he is! YAY! Sorry to add to the pressure with Maddie. lol. If it makes you feel better, she hasn't walked on her own much since her first 4 steps. When she learned what falling was she smartened up I guess. {And boy am I glad about that!}
I don't think there is a competition with who has the fattest baby... I think people just don't realize how they come across sometimes. Plus, when you worry it can affect how things come across to YOU. Treyson is just right in every way. He is just his own little man and knows when and how he likes to do things. He is perfect. Can't wait to see him in about a month! So excited!!
ok worryin about the walking is way better then imagining all the ways your child can be kidnapped/hit by cars that arent around/ dying traggic deaths that arent possible here in ut like drowning in the ocean? hahah i dont think trey is skinny? he is perfect size... at least thats what ruthie said? all kids do things on their own time... no pressure missy
I hear you on the skinny thing. Bailey still hasn't hit 20 lbs and she is 17 months. She's off the charts too but the Doc says it's ok. But if worries me too.
And on the walking thing I would probably be just like you and worry. I am such a worrier but just because I would doesn't mean you should. I still find myself seeing things other kids can do that Bailey can't and wonder if she's ok. But then I remember all the things she can do that other kids her age can't. So I totally believe all kids progress differently. When you think about it we all have different personalities. We'd be boring if we didn't and he just wants to take his sweet time. So don't worry, he'll come around.
If it makes you feel better my nephew is over 3 and literally barely talks. And the words he does say you can barely understand. He could use a translator 24/7. One of my brothers was exactly the same way and he's in his mid 30's now with 4 kids and doing great things in his life.
Sorry that was long. Hopefully it helps!
honestly, sometimes i wish brady was skinny. i get comments all the time about how BIG he is and how people think he is 2 and why is he so big and is dad 300 pounds and did i have him naturally, etc, etc, etc. it starts to get old and it starts to make me wonder if he is going to wind up being obese.
i have to keep reminding myself matt was 3 pounds BIGGER at this age! the olivers just make big babies! but it still BOTHERS me.
just today we were at a christening and i was holding brady and i overheard some husband whispering to his wife "do you see how big that baby is? he is HUGE! i have never seen a baby that big in my life. i wonder what they feed him? i bet he eats really unhealthy, poor kid is probably going to have weight issues..." i wanted to smack the man. my kid eats so flippin clean its ridiculous.
anyway, i wouldnt worry. you and trevor are both tall and thin and trey is going to be the same way.
as far as walking, one of my girlfriends has a baby boy who is 17 months and still not walking the the pedi isnt worried in the least. he says until he is 20 months and not walking, hes not going to touch it, because it is still within "normal" range.
Your 14.5 month old is 3 pounds heavier than my 19 month old, and Landen didn't complete master walking until 17 months! These were also my 2 biggest worries. I'm sure I'll always be worried about his weight because he's NEVER been on a chart! (He'll probably be 300lbs one day and I'll still be trying to get him to eat). I've learned that boys seem to mature slower than girls. Not sure why. Plus, in my own opinion, I feel like these new babes coming down these days are coming with their own sets of opinions right out of the womb. I know you've probably already heard this, but he'll do things when HE'S ready, and not according to our timetable. So, keep worrying :) it's your right as a mom, just know that you're not alone!
I SOOOOO know how you feel. Laney was about 18 lbs at her first birthday. She was a freakin string bean child but that worked its self out. And now Avery is 10 months and not crawling or cruising. I know normally that doesn't seem like that big of a deal but every 5 month old baby in my ward is crawling. I feel like something might be wrong. She just has NO interest. I keep freaking out about the fact that she won't be walking by her 1st birthday. Why do we do this to ourselves! I hate this compare culture that we live in as mothers! I makes me crazy!
I know it really doesn't help to sit and play the comparison game over and over again (let's be honest, we do it all the time)... but my nephew just turned 2 years old yesterday and is only weighing in at 21 pounds right now. They've taken him to specialists and what not but they all seem to say not to worry. Telling a mom not to worry is like telling money to start growing on trees... but it might help to hear of another healthy, ultralight child.
You are a mom. You will worry. But it doesn't matter, honey. Just love him and tell him that he is "good enough" just the way he is. I think Teryn's suggestion was a great idea: get him to play with others who walk and run.He won't want to be left out. Also, he may be very cautious kid (like his mommy was) and not want to risk injury. Do you blame him?
You're doing exactly what you're supposed to do. Worry. If you didn't, we'd all be worried about YOU.
Just like all the other moms, I have experience in this area too. My Sam (turning 4 this July) didn't walk until he was 16 months. He is a tiny thing too! He was only 16 pounds at his 1 year check up. He's turning 4 this July and is 30 pounds soaking wet and still in 2T clothes!
It's just different for every kid. My daughter who is turning 1 next week is 22 pounds, has thunder thighs and was walking at 9 months. So different!
Each kid has a different environment that helps to determine when they hit milestones. I bet babies who crawl on concrete floors walk a lot sooner than those with plush carpeting. Babies with siblings grasp some things faster because they have a little friend to help them along.
You're doing great and so is Treyson.
Some kids just don't see the need to walk. My youngest got around so much faster when he crawled that he didn't walk until he was 16 months. Even when he did walk, it took him months to really get it because he just preferred crawling. And to tell you the truth, I was just happy with that! I learned with my first that walking just means more falls, more bruises, and more things for him to reach and get into.
I understand how you feel though. When people ask how old he is and give the sideways glance about them not walking yet.
I used to be an EXTREMELY carefree person before having Tofer. I once said to Kris that loving someone so incredibly much is a burden too. Ha. If that makes sense. It's hard to care SO much. You worry about their sleeping, eating, hearing, walking, talking, pooping, feelings, activities, testimony, and every other detail you can imagine. It's hard to have your heart so completely swallowed up but at the same time, it's the greatest blessing of being a mom. Funny how that works. At least our husbands are independent creatures that don't rely on us for survival and everything else. Loving them isn't so painful :)
Treyson has to be one of the most beautiful children ever. Those eyes...wow.
Funny coincidence, yes, Natalie is from Indiana. Small world.
The double stroller is amazing. Best purchase ever. It's a Phil and Ted's. They are pretty pricey, but definitely a great investment. My only regret is not buying it when Bryson was a baby, since it can be a single or a double. It has revolutionized my world. I can't say enough good about it.
And thanks for the cardigan compliment. They are pretty much all from Ann Taylor Outlet. They frequently have a 40 percent off everything in the store sale. I bought that cute peach one for Old Navy a few weeks ago for only $15, but I'm pretty sure they are all sold out now. (I went back wanting more but they were gone. Sad.)
Good luck and happy shopping!
Hey Andrea! I know treyson is already walking, but I havent seen your blog in a while and reading this post made me laugh because I was going through the same exact thing! Picky eaters (audrey is SO skinny) and she didnt walk until she turned exactly 15 months. Plus we noticed her left foot was always turned out and i was so stressed about it and already thinking about getting her braces for her legs, but luckily they corrected themselves soon after she started walking. I know the pediatrician said they would-but they say a lot of things that bug me-but luckily she walks straight now and like a champ! forget about all those babies who walk before they are one. its over rated!
Its good to see updated pictures beacuse treyson looks so grown up and adorable! can you believe those eyes?!! Hes going to be a heartbreaker!
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